Chapter 2: Modelling grief
When adults are overwhelmed by grief
Sometimes adults are overcome by grief and show this in ways such as extreme anger or crying uncontrollably. This can happen at the time of a death, or when they learn about a death, particularly if it was unexpected. Although it’s healthy for children to see adults grieving, they may worry that a parent who's completely overwhelmed won’t be able to care for them. Children shouldn't be put in a position where they feel they must look after an adult.
If your children see you or another adult overcome by grief:
- Talk with them afterwards.
- Ask what they saw and how it affected them.
- If it was you who was overwhelmed, reassure them you’re still able to take care of them.